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A dating scene in Frances Ha

My friend Lily*, blonde, leggy, gorgeous, is the sort of woman that men chase down the street to get her phone number. This really happened after she locked eyes with a handsome gentleman in a meaningful ‘missed connections’ kind of way while out strolling one weekend. They made plans for a date. We were all dead with envy that none of us had experienced this deeply romantic/ideal memoir material kind of moment. The Big Date arrived and he not only took her to a decidedly average pasta joint, but readily accepted her half-hearted offer to go Dutch.
“He let me pay half which my traditional side balked at. Though obviously as a bra burning femmo, I was conflicted” she texted later about the date and we moaned back and forth, only half-seriously about how to date “as a feminist” and how Germaine and Naomi would surely have been giving us a transcontinental tut-tutting if they could hear us.

Engaged on the first date

Sometimes something just clicks! Other times you just have to work on it!

Engaged on the first date: "Wedding and reception both at Banjo Paterson Cottage Restaurant, Gladesville

Jess is a city girl while Tristan is a country boy through and through. But these two knew there was something special right from the start.

They met at uni where they were both studying architecture. "We became really good friends, passing notes to each other in lectures and things just grew from there," Jess says.

And although, in the beginning, they wondered whether their backgrounds were too different, "we've met in the middle. I've learnt about gardening and he's civilised a bit", Jess jokes.

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These "true-wife" confessions have become an online sensation as women take to their keyboards to shamelessly reveal their secret shenanigans.
Are these blogs an outlet seeking a cathartic conclusion to their broken relationships or are they harmful to unknowing partners, children and ultimately themselves?

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Many divorcees will ask questions such as how long do I stay single? Should I date someone because my ex is? Do I need to remain single for my kids' sake? Where do I begin finding a new partner?

Just as in marriage, where there is no definitive rule book, the same applies to divorce. There are no steadfast rules and regulations about when and what you should do."

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According to a recent UK study, nearly 40 per cent of Britons thought inability to orgasm with their partner would contribute to a break-up.

I’m not particularly surprised by that figure. Orgasms are lovely. I’d like to think that they’d be a prominent part of anyone’s long-term sexual relationship. Presumably anyone who’s had one, or many in succession as is the want of a deliciously wanton woman, would."

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If you talk to any number of super hot girls and approach them, you will start to see one thing over and over - she is going to test you. If you fail these tests, you will not not hook up with her. Period. You will join the piles of men she's had to reject because they weren't confident enough. 
The GOOD news is, that there is a way to pass these tests nearly 100% of the time. 

Most really hot girls' tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to passing, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually a sexual candidate. 

If you don't know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women. 

These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them. 

A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right? 

Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can't just look at a guy an say "he's good looking, therefore he's attractive." They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY. 

That's 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.

The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they're going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why you want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you're used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you're used to being with beautiful women. 

This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backwards for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her. 

Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it's very crucial that you learn this.

How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow. 

One very classic compliance test is "buy me a drink."  
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Women go for throat here when you're in the bar because they don't have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted and who is confident, who's not. How you respond to "buy me a drink" is very crucial when you're in a bar. 

There are other small things like "why don't you wait here while I go to the bathroom." or "give me a kiss on the cheek" or even "will you take a picture for us?" 

Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it's from a really beautiful woman and you don't want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.

For example, if someone says, "Take our pictures." Then you will say, "okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I ask you to take it." So if they refused to do this, and you go, "Alright, well find some other guy." 

You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, "Hey man, can you take their picture?" And you just have them take your picture. 
But usually they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go "okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look." Then take their picture. "Okay now, make a silly face", take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.

Essentially what you're doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this. Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don't know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.

So from now on, know and recognize when women is giving you a compliance test. Don't stop and don't reject the compliance test. Add your own terms. 

When you start doing this, you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar, making her more and more attracted to you since you're the kind of guy who won't just do exactly what she wants.

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The Tao of Badass JV Program: "How to make out with a girl in 40 seconds or less – for real chemistry of attraction, pheromone party,

If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it's magical or out of reach - a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

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But it's not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I'm going to break down those steps.

The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who's ready to make out.

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it's true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down. 

You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this "make-out ready" state, so you can walk up and be "that guy."

Don't buy into the myth that women don't want this to happen. 

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this "turbo" make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.

There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session. 

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions. 

Let me explain... When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called "Eye Accessing Cues." When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain. 

If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she's saying: "I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I'm looking down." And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn't just use her eyes to look down), she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission. 

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn't look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she's meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission. 

Women who you're going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That's one quality which shows you'll be able to quickly make out with her. 

Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It's going to take much longer. 

Again, you're going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can't just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with. 

Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit. 

Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who's in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don't want to over dress or under dress, and don't know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They'll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That's what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed. 

If not, I'd actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you're going to walk up and start the scary part.


What To Do


This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It's very, very important that you understand how to control someone else's frame if you want to come across like you're a pro at this. 

By "frame," I basically mean their "reality." You're controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately. 

I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I'll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it... 

Here's what I would say, word-for-word... Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh…" 

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, "Wait just one moment." 

You can also say, "Stop for one minute." I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or "don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head. 

So if I said, "Don't try to make out with me," or "Don't make out with me right now," girls are going to be consciously hearing, "Don't make out with me," but their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out with me right now!"

You're attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, "I should make out with this guy."

Now, during frame control you'll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible.Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this. 

Don't try to seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with "don't" or "wait" or "stop." 

My typical is "Don't worry... right now." That's all I say. And I slow that speech down – "Don't…worry…....... right now."

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, "You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to secretly kiss and no one will know."

And as I'm saying this, I'm leaning in... and you'll be doing the same when you do it. You're leaning in ever... so... slowly. At the same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again. 

This is called "Triangulating." Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two... etc. Do that about three or four times as you're talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're going to get it perfect the first time.

So again, you say, "We're going to have a secret. We're going to kiss and no one is going to know." From here on out, you're really just filling up space with words as you're leaning in so you're still controlling the interaction.

So you're going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won't pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.


Signs That It's Working


Is she looking at your lips? If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It's a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that's how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you're getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she's looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You'll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.


!Important!


In a loud environment like a bar, you'll want to speak louder, but don't raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you're going to keep talking... What I usually say is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."

As I'm saying this into her ear, I make sure that she's feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this. 

As you're speaking really close to her ear, you'll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you're talking. Then you'll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then... you'll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck... then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds - I've done it in less time, and I've seen other guys do it, too.


Practice It


What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.

You won't use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it's really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.

Whenever you see a girl who's in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she'll be turned off and you've lost a golden seduction opportunity. 

Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that's what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman... and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.

There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality... how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn't turn off any of her weird alert switches... specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she's totally in your zone.ban

What's taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.

Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember – it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less."

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